To
start with, let me make it clear in first line that I hate caste system and any
discrimination based on caste.
I
think some background of my family will help you people to decide whether my
experience is superfluous or could be termed a little bit real. I was born in a
family which belongs to a caste which comes under the category of OBC
definition of our government system and which is numerically insignificant to
make any ‘vote bank’ except in some municipal wards or in some village, like
one to which my father belongs. Before moving to Allahabad, I spent first 10
years of my life in a small town having a population of some
10-15k in district which could be called a backward district in terms
of industries, development or in terms of law and order. My mother belongs
to another town of the same district and my father’s village is in district which is even more
undeveloped. So here it starts; my experience with caste.
My
first school is one of those which are called by some people where casteism is
taught; one of Saraswati Shishu Mandir spread in towns and small centers of
this country. And number of times I faced any kind of discrimination from any
of my teachers is an ‘absolute zero’.
Most of them must be knowing my caste as it was a small town or at least
they must be knowing that I am not one of so called ‘born with golden spoon
kid' born in an ‘upper caste’; but still they never did any discrimination to me,
not a single time. I spent 7 years in that school and forget about
discrimination, I am one of the most loved students by teachers there. They loved me like
their own kid and when my parents used to complain about me in meetings with them, they were the one who
defended me in front of my parents. They were the one who had laid the
foundation of my journey; if you consider me being a somewhat successful
person, then they are the one who should get most of the credit.
When
I moved to Allahabad, I joined a small private school there. Being new to that
school, it’s obvious that I would not be in favorite list of those (every
school or institute has its own dynamics), but again caste based discrimination
– 0.
Then
I did my high school and Intermediate from a government aided school. And like
my early childhood days, here again I was one of the favorite students of my
teachers. (Oops! Something must be horribly wrong with all these people, why
are not they doing any discrimination). I still meet some of them, and when I
touch their feet, it’s simple a student touching feet of his Guru; for all
those who looks everything through lenses of castes, it may not be a ideal case
for their Halla-gulla, but this is a real world, not a ‘award wapasi’ gang
studio. To add more salts to wounds of this gang, if I was ever discriminated,
it was always on positive side, and that too was not for my caste, but because
of me being a hard-working student in their eyes. They were good people who had
stood with me to make me, to build me and probably never looked at the caste
column of my profile.
Then
comes the college life and here again I was in the good list of ‘Shukla’ or
‘Ojha’. Anyone wishing to hear a story of an OBC being treated badly by an
‘upper caste’ could be sad by now, but hold your breath, 10 years of my life is
still left.
Then
I reached the prestigious IIT Kanpur to do my Post graduation and let me assure you I still
don’t know caste of my thesis guide and I am sure he also don't. Reason is simple, we were busy doing what to be done in an institute,
doing study, research. I still do and meet him to take his guidance, caste is a useless thing for both of us. I was involved in hostel politics and even there some of
the cards played against me were my food habits and regionalism. To give the
credit where it is due, even my political opponents did not brought caste into
the table while fighting the election.
And
with IIT, my educational career stopped, and I faced no discrimination on the
basis of my caste even a single time. And
I do ensure you that I did not faced any discrimination during my job period too.
So here
I am; After 3 schools, 2 colleges, 4 training academies and 2 workplaces and zero
caste based discrimination. What a journey it was, and by now I don’t believe
that it was just my luck to not find a single such person; it is more of a norm. I
may get some in future, but that would make them exceptions only.
So
it was all about my educational and professional life, but that is just a part
of my life, what about time which I spend with my family, my friends, their
families and many other people with whom I come into contact daily.
Starting
with my family; for them it never mattered that I am making friends of what
castes or religion. They did not care for it at all and all my friends are
always welcomed by them inside home and my mother always had conversations with
them, some time even more than me irrespective of their caste or religion. Talking
about any such discrimination in my friend circle would be a blasphemy. All of
us know each other caste or religion, but we don’t give even a shit to it (and its not worth giving too). About
their families, they had always treated me like their son. How on earth I am
so lucky to have such wonderful people in my life, I have access to their
living room, kitchen etc, and they did not even care to ask my caste! How can they
be like that when according to some people everyone is castist to one’s core outside?
Reservation
and my dilemma: Now it’s a good time to talk about the dilemma, which still
haunts me. Whether to use reservation or not? First, I never faced
discrimination and second, I belong to a middle class family (not a creamy
one), so to use it or not, here lies the dilemma. If I go for using it, that
would be against my personal views on reservation which I think is discriminatory against people of so called upper castes; and if I decide
to apply as a general candidate, I may be doing more harm to other general
candidates who are already suffering from reservation. This is one of those dilemmas
which had given me sleepless nights. It may be happening to many other like me
too, and they may have reached to a solution unlike me. I am still clueless what
to fill in my form in the category column while filling a form, General or OBC? I decided to fill it
at random, i.e. just fill whatever it comes into mind at that particular time.
I find it a funny way to mock a system I dislike, there may be better ways,
please help me if you have one.
Now I want to end this long emotional chat with you
people, if by this time you hadn’t got bored and still reading it. I never wear
my caste in my hat, and got treated like I did not have one. I got love from so
many people from all castes and religion, and I am sure all of you must have
got the same. I agree that there are some ass-holes out there, but there always
be some of them and there are some of them in all caste. Also life is not fair, and you will meet some
people who will not do good to you, and some who will do good to you but if you
keep wearing your caste hat all the time, whenever you meet one who does not do
good to you, you may feel it is because of your caste, when the reason is you
had find one such person which you had to meet one day anyway, so don’t blame him being a castist. Professors do
not have time to look into your caste before awarding you mark. Stop being so skeptical
and cry foul every day. By doing this, you may be doing exactly opposite of what
you are wishing for in your heart; we will make a caste less society one day.
Love to all.